Hello and Happy Hump Day! But really, is it only Wednesday? The first full week back to work after the holidays is always the toughest–isn’t that what they say?
Anyway, I thought I would share some thoughts I had about a few articles going round the interwebs, in regards to weddings and marriage and whatnot.
The author lists a slew of random things people should do instead of getting engaged. While I applaud this girl’s bravery in getting out and traveling the world at a young age (something I dreamed of doing as well, just never had the determination to follow through on it), I find her views on marriage to be a little bit skewed, and a whole lot of Judgy McGee.
Her thoughts on younger (as in, less than 25 years old) people getting engaged were,
|One year I went to Paris for NYE and got to have these two dudes photobomb our picture–would not have done that if I was in a relationship, which is exactly why I broke up with my boyfriend two months earlier (well, among other reasons).|
In addition, the author also mentioned that, “I NEED to develop MY dreams and MYSELF before I can truly be the type of woman you WANT to marry.” Yes, this is partly true–you absolutely need to be sure of your own identity, before you throw yourself into any relationship. However, there is a part of yourself that will always be developing, changing, and just trying to figure how to be a freakin’ adult. At 22, I definitely was not ready to get married. I spent a lot of time on my own, and learned a lot about myself, but I have to say that at 26, I still don’t have everything figured out, and I don’t think I ever will. Despite that, while I was not ready at 22 (and the author of this article obviously is not ready either), that does not mean that every other 22 year old in the entire world is not ready.
|This is me at 22. I’d like to say I’m too mature to take pictures like this anymore, but it would still happen.|
In conclusion friends, let me say a few things. I’ve been married for over a year now, and I, too, was once a single girl, living my life the way I wanted and often feeling mixed emotions over my friends going off and getting married. Therefore, I believe myself to be an expert (because isn’t that enough by internet standards?), so let me give all you single and engaged people some advice:
Marriage is the greatest adventure of my life so far, but it’s also been hard work. If you’re in a long term relationship, don’t feel pressured to get engaged just because that seems to be the next step, and your family or friends expect you to do so. If you’re single, don’t feel pressured to be in a relationship because your friends are, or because you think it will “fix” your problems. Lastly, if you and your favorite buddro are ready to make that big commitment, then go for it and don’t let anyone try to tell you how you should live your life. (There is also this article about weddings in general, but that is a discussion for another day.)
At the end of the day, it’s all about the choice that is right for you, and right for you and your sig other. It’s not about what society, Pinterest, and those God-awful wedding shows on TLC are trying to tell you (and for the record, if you are engaged, make sure you get to a point where you let Pinterest go–otherwise you will subconsciously put pressure on yourself to make a “pin-worthy” wedding). We all have our own path in life, and we are the only ones that get to decide where the path will take us.
|Photography by Soho Photgraphy|
And that, my friends, to quote Forrest Gump, is all I have to say about that.