The party, my friends, is what makes a wedding a wedding. Sure, there’s the ceremony and the vows and the papers that make it all legit, but without the ensuing celebrations it’s little more than a business transaction (in my opinion.) I know that I’m stating the obvious when I say that marriage is one of the biggest commitments you’ll ever make in your life. You’re pledging to spend your life with that person, forever, through all the ups and downs. You don’t bail out when things got rough (unless you’re Kim Kardashian), and you don’t toss it away if something slightly more appealing catches your eye (unless you’re Kim Kardashian).
So I realize I’m starting to get a little off topic, and I may be sounding like a Negative Nancy. Yes, commitment is a very heavy word with so many connotations; that being said, I think that marriage is one of the best commitments you will make in your life, and that is the reason to celebrate. Hooray! You’ve finally found your Person, your Best Friend, your Soulmate! You no longer have to search your friend lists to find someone willing to go with you to the Farm Museum, because your significant other would happily go on such a silly adventure with you. (Not that Matt and I have ever been to the Farm Museum, but if I asked, I have no doubt that he would agree to go in a heartbeat.) And now that you’ve found that person, you’re willing to declare to God/Your State/Social Networks that this is it, you’re taking yourself out of the game forever.
Personally, I have found it to be a huge relief, not having to play those games anymore, and it really is wonderful to be happy doing anything, from the mundane to the extraordinary, with your fiance. Now, can’t you see why the party is so important? The party on your wedding day let’s you release all the joy and exuberance you feel over committing yourself to the person you love, for life. And, the best part is, you get to share it all with the people nearest and dearest to your heart. THAT makes the wedding.
|We like to party, party
Speaking of parties, these days an impending wedding tends to spawn all sorts of extra parties! Engagement parties, bridal showers, bachelor/bachelorette parties, etc. I mean really, there’s no limit to what you can dream up–two people who love each other are making the ultimate commitment, so any party leading up to the Big Day can easily be rationalized with this logic.
You better believe Matt and I already have our party hats on! (Metaphorically speaking, of course, although possessing REAL party hats would be an excellent idea.) In fact, we’ve got two engagement parties coming up the next two weekends. One we will be having back home in SWVA, with my parents and my mom’s family who live in the area. Next, we will have one at Matt’s parent’s house. This will mostly be the bridal party as well as a few close friends and family members who live in the DC area. Now for some people who already have trouble wrapping their head around an Engagement party (i.e., Grandma Eide), two parties might seem excessive. However, it just seemed the best thing to do. With so many of our friends and family scattered around, hosting two parties manages to include (almost) everyone.
My advice to future brides would be to hop on that celebration train and don’t hold back. Ideally, you’re only going to get married once (unless you’re Kim Kardashian); hold onto every moment.